Everything it does
Built to lift load, never add it.
Every feature in CARER starts from a single question: does this take weight off the person doing the caring, or add to it? Only the first kind makes it in.
The rooms
Where you spend your time.
Companion
The warm, remembering conversation at the heart of CARER. It opens here every time — no dashboard, no setup — ready to listen.
The private space
A sealed, encrypted room for the things you can't say anywhere else. The "ugly feelings" — resentment, anger, the wish it would end — received without judgement, never re-surfaced without your consent.
Journey
Your caring story in your own words — the arc, the hard bits, and the small wins — offered back as narrative, never as charts or scores.
Grief space
A dedicated room to name and hold grief, including grief for someone still living. It carries gracefully into the "after" if the caring ends.
Reflection
A gentle, self-authored way to notice how depleted or steady you feel — always in your own words, never as a number, a gauge, or a trend.
Crisis & safeguarding
An always-present, one-tap route to urgent support, on every screen. Free, offline, and reachable before you've even signed in.
Support & signposting
Warm referrals to trusted carer helplines and organisations wherever you are, condition-specific charities, and peer communities — help from real people, not an in-app social feed.
Settings & privacy
Plain-language control over your data, memory, backups, and crisis-config status — with everything exportable and deletable.
The companion's way of talking
What you'll notice when you use it.
Warm, attuned responses
It reflects, holds, and gently explores — meeting you where you are, not handing out advice you didn't ask for.
Validate first, always
The hard feeling is acknowledged and validated before anything else. Only if you invite it does the conversation widen.
Anti-guilt by design
It never tells you to "do more," never valorises self-sacrifice, and never shames rest. Rest is framed as sustainable caring — not a reward you have to earn.
No toxic positivity
No "stay strong," no "at least…," no "everything happens for a reason." Meaning and love are honoured only after the difficulty is met — and only the meaning you raise.
Identity beyond the role
It remembers the whole person you are — not just the carer — and reflects your own words about who that is.
Calm, safe streaming
Replies arrive gently, and every draft is checked for safety before you ever see it.
Memory — in your words
You never have to start over.
Remembers so you never re-explain
Persistent memory across every session means you pick up mid-stream, always.
Your words, your provenance
Everything stored is what you said and when — never a conclusion the system reached about you.
"A while ago you told me…"
Your own past words, offered back as a gentle prompt — self-insight, never inference.
Your steadier self, for the harder days
What you said when you felt more resourced, re-surfaced in your own voice — a question you get to answer.
Visible, editable, exportable
Every remembered item is listed and grouped, and you're in control of all of it.
Held with grace
Your memory isn't abandoned if you lapse, or at bereavement. The thread stays.
On your device first
Your memory lives on your own phone as the source of truth, with an optional end-to-end-encrypted backup only you can read.
Grief & ambiguous loss
Held, not fixed.
Grief for a living person, named
Anticipatory grief and ambiguous loss are treated as first-class and real — not a sub-topic to get past.
The "both/and" stance
Love and grief held together, neither cancelling the other.
No forced closure
Recurring sorrow is normalised as human, never as "failing to cope." Nothing is rushed toward an ending.
Into the after
If caring ends, CARER stays — holding the guilt of relief, the role-loss, and the whole story that mattered.
Safety & crisis
Four-directional, always-on.
A calm, one-tap crisis route on every screen
Never a red alarm — a steady, always-there affordance.
Four directions of support
For your own safety, for burnout collapse, for fear of harm to the person you care for, and for harm being done to you.
Feeling validated, never the act
It holds the feeling and never validates a harmful plan — pivoting gently to help the moment intent appears.
A text route, always offered
When you can't speak aloud because someone's nearby, a text option is offered first.
Honest about its limits
It's clear it isn't a therapist or a crisis service — and it tells you exactly who is.
Winds down, never pulls
Late at night, it gently suggests things will keep till morning, and points back to human connection — it never manufactures a reason to keep you scrolling.
Notifications
The opposite of engagement-farming.
Warm, sparse, daytime
No streaks, no "we miss you," no guilt, no late-night pulls. Notifications are ignorable by design.
"Welcome back — I remember where we were"
Never "you missed four days." You return with no debt.
A curfew that's a boundary, not a setting
Late-night re-engagement isn't something we do.
Free during early access — and always for the things that matter most.
CARER is free while we're in early access. The core companion will always be free. Crisis support is free, and always will be. No ads, and we never sell your data.
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